Love Letters for Everyone

I recently had the joy of being quoted on Today.com (for the second time!) about the power of love letters and why they still hold a special place in our connections with the people we care about.

Love letters aren’t just for romantic partners, and they don’t have to fit one specific mold. Whether it’s for a partner or partners, friends, family, or even a note to yourself, love letters can take many shapes and forms.

Let’s explore what love letters can really be, why they matter, and how you can create your own, no matter who you’re writing to or how you express yourself. From traditional notes to more creative, accessible ways of sharing love, there’s something here for everyone.

Why Love Letters Still Matter

In a world where many of us are multitasking our way through conversations and connecting via short bursts of emojis, love letters are a way to slow things down. They remind us that love is worth noticing, honoring, and expressing, whether romantic, platonic, or somewhere beautifully in between.

They also serve as emotional anchors. Words you can come back to in hard moments. Something tangible that says, “I see you. I care.”

And love letters don’t just belong in romantic relationships. They can be just as powerful:

• Between best friends

• In co-parenting partnerships

• Across long-distance chosen family

• Within polycules or ENM relationships

• As part of healing in self-love and inner-child work

How to Write a Love Letter (Yes, You Can)

You don’t have to be a great writer. You just have to be real.

Here’s what I suggest when clients want to give it a try:

• Start small. One or two sentences is enough.

• Be specific. “I love how you always hand me coffee before I ask,” hits different than “You’re amazing.”

• Use your voice. If you’re goofy, be goofy. If you’re sentimental, lean into it.

• Make it yours. Write it in a notebook, send it in a text, whisper it in their ear while folding laundry. It all counts.

Some love-letter simple starters:

• “I thought of you when…”

• “You probably don’t realize how much it means to me when…”

• “Here are a few things I love about you:”

When Writing Isn’t the Right Fit

Creating a love letter doesn’t have to mean writing. Some people are more comfortable expressing themselves in other ways—or face barriers like language differences, neurodivergence, disability, or trauma that make writing difficult.

Here are a few love letter alternatives I recommend:

• 🎵 Create a playlist or mixtape that expresses what you feel

• 🗣️ Tell someone what you love about them while on a walk or doing dishes

• 🎨 Make something—a doodle, collage, or piece of art that shows how you see them

• ✋ “Write” a love note on your partner’s body with just your hands

• 🎞️ Share a favorite memory with a photo or a little video message

If it comes from love, it counts.

Love, in Every Form, Deserves to Be Expressed

Love letters can be romantic, platonic, queer, kinky, messy, sacred, silly, or deeply sensual. There’s no one right format or recipient. You might be writing to a spouse, a situationship, your best friend, or yourself.

What matters most is that your words—or gestures—are honest. That you’re choosing to show up and connect.

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If you want to explore more ways to build connection in your relationships—or if you’re navigating love, identity, or intimacy in a way that doesn’t fit the mainstream script—I’d love to help.

👉 Contact me to schedule a session if you’re ready to get started.

Love takes many forms. Your way is valid. And your words—however you choose to share them—matter.